The Downward Slope of Handwriting – Is the Pen Really Mightier?

The best way to describe my elementary school experience with handwriting is frustrating. Emotionally, it was quite scarring. The description sounds dramatic, doesn’t it? But put yourself in my shoes and think of it, what kind of feeling did you think it would be if you went through the pain of writing your name on a conventional board (a chalkboard) and was quite pleased with how it appeared, just for your teacher to come around and wipe it off because you wrote in capital letters?

downslope of handwritingTell me, would it not be hurting to see Fail (as in big F) on your second grade cursive test report on the basis that your Qs and Ys were not curly as they should be?

On the other hand, those scenarios were uncommon since penmanship classes themselves were not frequent – I spent substantial time in the school computer laboratory mastering the keyboard as I played the typing games. Prior to obsolescence (supposedly) of pen and paper due to technology, handwriting exercises were seen as highly essential. Things are different now. The present generation communicates via typing and texting, and some of us that learnt to handwrite virtually everything put in a lot of struggle to unravel our muddled scrawls.

Without doubts, the value that was placed on handwriting before now has dropped; but, to what extent has it dropped? And the big question is, to what extent should we care about the decline of the importance attached to handwriting?

Giving Improvement a Chance

A lot of people would want to point fingers on computers for the less importance attached to handwriting. However, the decline gradually crept in with the advent of manual typewriters. However, handwriting went through transformation and came to its present state – cursive form (fewer flowery type); the transformation started from ornate to calligraphic penscript.

Perhaps you’ve learned penmanship while in school; if you did, then you must have taken Palmer cursive lessons – a style that enabled faster as well as better enhanced writing when compared with the styles that existed before. The style featured fewer swirls and curls. Students were taught the new cursive by teachers in lessons lasting less than a half-hour, or at most one hour.

However, with the advent of typewriters which pointed to a shift in writing trend, the time allocated to penmanship was reduced substantially so that students would have more time to concentrate on mastering typing skills. By the time we were ushered into the 90s, computers had already become popular at home and in work places – as a result less priority was placed on handwriting lessons.


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You Look The Bee’s Knees…Until ‘She’ Shows Up

Who is she? Who is the one who makes your fantastic size four figure feel suddenly gross, chubby and out of proportion? ‘She’ is probably not aware of the effect her size zero dress is having on you; how those long and slender limbs are poking jokes at your short and stubby ones or how her airbrushed skin makes your imperfections all the more grotesque. When she shows up you try to slip out of the limelight and into the shadows…

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So even if you can barely gather an inch of fat on your own hips, why is there always someone who makes you feel fat and off-balance? Ha! Have you ever walked confidently down the street only to find every crack in the pavement when someone with a hotter body starts approaching from the other direction? It makes you nervous, gives you a complex and makes those shoulders slouch forward, chin sinking into your chest.

Or what about the scenario when you take your best dress to the hottest party and your side-kick that is several sizes smaller than you complains she looks fat. She does this without thinking of course because if she is fat then you must be obese – the horrors of horrors!

If it isn’t the size of the one’s body then it is something else; your best friends beautiful mane of hair makes yours look like rat’s tails or those stunning duo eyes make yours feel piggish. Having a complex about our own appearance is only made worse by those you perceive as more beautiful – especially when they get too close, and you feel like the whole room is making comparisons.

How can we learn to ditch the complex and love ourselves for who we are? How can we stand side by side with Miss Superbod and still feel as confident as ever? What is the secret?


The Power Of Letting Go

Have you ever had something right on the tip of your tongue but just couldn’t force your brain to bring it on through? It might be the name of a song, a location, or even a word. Once your mind is relaxed, and you have forgotten about it, the name will suddenly pop into your mind. That is one example of the power of letting go.

When your mind is all tied into knots and trying to figure something out, the creative process will be stifled. In order to come up with creative solutions to life’s problems, you have to let go and let a solution come through.

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This idea works along with popular self help methods like the Law of Attraction and visualization. You need to engage your brain and focus on what it is you want, but after a time, you have to release it and let it go. When you do, your subconscious or creative side will take over and work on solutions in the background.

The longer it takes to let go, the longer it takes to get the things you want in life. Just like you can’t force something on the tip of your tongue to come to the forefront, sheer will alone will not bring you the things you want in life.

Letting go isn’t easy for a lot of us. We like to feel in control. We feel if something is not in our constant attention, we are not doing it justice. Nothing is farther from the truth. Just because the busy, conscious part of your brain is no longer engaged in the matter, it doesn’t mean your subconscious isn’t working overtime on it.

Your subconscious mind is very powerful. It can make connections and notice opportunities you would miss if you don’t let it do its job. So don’t forget, when you are seeking answers and solutions, let it go to get results.


Are you Living a Vanilla Life ?

What is likely to be the outcome when instead of living your life by default, you live in by design? What would be the consequence of making your own choices rather than allowing your life to make the choice for you? Perhaps you know someone who is living in an autopilot kind of life, or you are even doing so yourself. Such people wake up, dress for work, drive to and from work using the same route. After that back from work, they probably watch television, play with the children and eat dinner. The routine continues that way all through the week, then months and roll into years.

There are certain times when the crisis of life strikes – such crisis like the life-threatening ailments, severe accident, mid-life crisis or the crisis of losing a dear one are awakeners. These life crises have a way of waking up those who have been operating on autopilot lifestyle, to make them assess their manner of life.

Suddenly, it occurs to them that they’ve not been ’human beings’ all along but ‘human doings’ – not living their lives for themselves, but for everything and everyone. Ironically, we may or may not admit it, but we write the books of our own lives. Whatever we have at this point emanated from our decisions and choices along the way, including those decisions made on autopilot or based on ‘ought to’, ‘could’ or ‘should.

It is so easy to get absorbed into physical expectations that we don’t realize when our own authentic and personal life slips away. You don’t need a life crisis before making positive adjustment in the way you live. Look at yourself critically at this moment and ask yourself this question, “What or who is in control of my driver’s seat if am not the one?”

When you live your life in the driver’s seat, it is a pointer that you know what your utmost priority is, and that you know just what you want. It means you are living a balanced life that is so meaningful and purposeful. You’ve made a conscious effort to make your life real, happy and vibrant.

Here’s the bottom line, the best way to reclaim the driver’s seat of your life is to develop a life strategy. Should you wish to get the maximum benefit from your hard earned cash. You need to come up with a financial master plan for achieving your goal. The same holds true for your personal life.



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